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We want to help people in all aspects of their health – physical, financial and mental.
We cover a number of areas in each category – we call the ‘Drives’
We also know that people are at different stages of life, so we summarise that in ‘Life Journey’.
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Our Home page reflects what we do, and what we stand for.
It allows you to see what we believe in in terms of personal responsibility, as well as showing our Drives and the Life Journey.
If you register (see below) then you can download our health quiz.
It shows you our most popular posts and gives access to our blog.
All our pages allow you to register (or sign up) to YouDriveHealth. We’ll never ask you for financial details, but signing up allows you to download materials and papers from our site. When you register you provide an email address and we’ll send you a link.
We want to create a community, so we encourage people to comment (once they’ve registered).
We list our drives on our home page, with some explanatory text. Hover over one and click it to go there.
You can also hover over the Health menu item and the full menu of Drives will open up.
The headings Physical, Financial and Mental also relate to summary pages, as does Health.
Each Drive is represented by an icon, and on each Drive there is s navigation bar which you can use to go to another Drive. These are in alphabetical order.
Our Drives provide you with more information from relevant and trusted sites, and allow you to give a rating depending on how helpful you found it.
We also provide support if you need help achieving your goal, either from specific organisations or by showing you things which might help you.
We know that people are at different stages of their life, and we summarise that in ‘Life Journey’.
It deals with three stages of life – childhood, maturity and later life.
Each Life Stage also has an icon, and has a general introduction
Each stage then has specific information relevant to that stage of life – e.g. DNA, maternity through to adolescence.
About explains about YouDriveHealth. It explains (again) how our site works, and what we believe, then describes our approach to support – getting the help you might need.
Then it covers our Vision, Mission Statement and our Values.
It then gives you the opportunity to register or sign in.
We regularly post news and articles relevant to specific Drives or about health generally, and these can be seen in our blog.
Clicking on the Blog menu item takes you to the blog summary, which lists posts by category and also the most popular posts.
The right hand side of the Blog provides additional information and allows you to select what you want to see.
There are instructions on how to use the blog and also a button to take you to the full blog, which contains all our posts
The full blog shows posts in chronological order, and again the right hand side allows you to select what you want to see. It runs to many pages and is growing!
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People look at things differently. Some people believe things happen to them, while others believe they can influence what happens to them. Technically this is called the ‘locus of control’. People can have an Internal or external Locus of Control
Tend to be less influenced by others
People tend to take more responsibility (locus gets more internal) as they get older. However, external isn’t always bad – for example if you are physically unable to do some things you can accept it and focus on the things you can do. This American video explains the concept and gives examples of how this can affect relationships.
If you want to find out how you see things, you can take a test to show what your locus of control is. Most of the tests are based on work by Rotter dating back to 1966 – many have been updated since.
Psychology Today have a 15 minute test which gives you a summary of your position you can buy the detailed results if you want to.
My Personality Test have a 10 minute test which gives you a summary.
It’s too easy to be smug and say you need to control your own destiny. We know that things can really hit you hard – there are many things you really can’t control. That’s why we think this isn’t all you need to know. There’s another VITAL lesson that goes with it.
Many people when they don’t get what they want blame the events in their life. Actually they have no control over events – things happen. However, the outcome is determined not just by the event but by your response to it – and you can control your response.
If you let the Event control the Outcome, and you don’t like the Outcome – you can only change your Response – not the Event.
This short video explains this – you can read more
For a longer example – look at this US motivational speaker giving a real life example – it’s worth persevering with!
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We understand that if your problem has been going a while and is severe, you need to get it fixed urgently with professional help. We call this an intervention.
We deal with situations where you’re not even sure you have a problem (but might want to improve some aspect of your life) through to where it’s serious (such as deciding to seek expert help). Often help is needed in other areas AFTER some expert intervention in one area (e.g. looking at jobs or help with depression after an operation).
So on a scale ranging from no problem to as bad as it gets, we deal with areas with no problem to serious – after this you need serious expert help.
Also, these areas are interlinked. Often a problem in one area has a knock-on effect on others. Losing your job can lead to anxiety and depression, which can turn you drink and impact your health.
You might have a severe issue in one area but that can lead to problems in other areas, and the people treating you for the first problem won’t be equipped to deal with these linked issues.
For example, doctors and nurses can treat you for a physical problem but can’t advise you about your job or finances.
We take a holistic view – we look at all areas and offer support across the whole spectrum.
Difference between sexual fantasy and reality
Well for many fantasies are just that and are kept to the individual or partner. Those can sometimes be extreme in nature but that’s where it stops and it never gets to reality. Some partners want to go further and put the fantasy into reality.
Well in this case it requires thinking through especially if it involves third parties or doing things whereby you can get caught. There is nothing wrong with turning a legal fantasy into reality provided everyone is truly consenting and not coerced into it.
Pornography is now almost universally available - on phones, computers and tablets. It's no longer a case of 'top shelf' magazines! Can watching porn spice up a sexual relationship, or is it a sad addiction? Who watches porn anyway? How real is it? Is there a balance between a bit of spice and a compulsion?
Multi-partner, Group, threesomes, orgies, are not for everyone and need to be planned otherwise things could backfire. There are people who enjoy these types of sexual gratification but if a partner is reluctant then they should never be coerced or forced. Sex and sex acts do magical things to our bodies naturally but the brain has to remain in control and make sure the act doesn’t turn into an addiction.
Why not take the sex addiction test in the tabs below and see how you get on?
There are no Government statistics because sex addiction is not classified as a medical issue but professionals are seeking classification as increasing numbers of people seek out advice. It is estimated that up to 12% of the population could have a secret sexual addiction. Sex addiction is characterised by excessive urges to have sex or engage in other sex-related behaviours, even when such actions may jeopardise your physical health, emotional wellbeing or social standing.
Of course, sexual desires and urges are a normal and healthy part of life. But in the case of sex addiction, these urges become overwhelming and the resultant decisions and actions can be extremely destructive.
Love addiction, which is also widely referred to as ‘co-dependency’, shares many of the same characteristics of sex addiction, although the intrusive thoughts and preoccupations of sexual urges and fantasies tend to be focused on one person, with the aim of repeatedly reliving the initial ‘rush’ of new romance without any desire to progress a relationship further.
Sex addiction and co-dependency are associated with a wide range of signs and symptoms. Whilst there is no single action or behaviour that will definitively establish that you are struggling with sex or love addiction, the symptoms generally fall under the following categories:
The following are among the more common examples of specific signs and symptoms of sex addiction:
The following are among the more common examples of specific signs and symptoms of love addiction:
A great many psychological factors can contribute to the development of sex addiction – and just as every individual’s psychology is unique, so too is every combination of such factors.
Many people use sex as a form of escapism – from loneliness, sadness and other negative emotions – and this can drive repeated behaviour of the sort likely to develop into an addiction. Low self-esteem is also seen as a critical contributor.
People suffering from depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorders, learning disabilities and substance abuse disorders are all more likely than the average to develop sex addiction, as are individuals with personality traits including low self-esteem, difficulties sustaining intimacy and relationship stability, insecurity, and a low tolerance for frustration, and people with paraphilia-related disorders.
A study published in 2014 suggested brain activity in “sex addicts” watching porn is similar to that of drug addicts when shown their drug of choice.
In a recent survey 39% of the UK population said they have watched pornography recently. This rises to nearly 50% for adults under 24. Of this group 76% are men watching pornography on the internet, compared with just 36% of women.
A recent study by Marie Claire found that as many as one in three (31%) women watch porn every week, while Pornhub, one of the world’s most popular free sites, recently revealed that women make up more than a quarter (29%) of its global audience.
However, problems start to arise when people get fantasy and reality mixed up.
Porn is a way to delve into your sexual fantasies and discover what turns you on. It’s anonymous, it’s free from rejection, but are there drawbacks to making love to watching porn? We explore the effect porn can have on your brain and how this can affect relationships and your performance.
Porn can actually change the way your brain deals with sexual impulses. Porn stimulates the same part of the brain that addictive drugs do. Watching porn makes you feel good because it releases feel-good hormones and as a result, we watch it over and over again. The problem is, over time, the brain becomes desensitised to what it sees and no longer releases those feel-good hormones so readily. In the same way that drug users, over time, need bigger hits in order to feel high, people watching porn need more and more hardcore stuff to reach the same level of satisfaction. This is where your brain becomes a little one-track minded and your porn habit begins to look more like an addiction.
You might have a problem with porn if your porn habit escalates from a few times a month to daily. Or you’ve noticed the type of porn you’re watching getting increasingly extreme. Or real sex doesn’t give you the same satisfaction that watching porn does.
Watching excessive amounts of porn can also impact on your physical capability to maintain an erection, or you may find a general disinterest in real sex. Bingeing on porn can numb your brain to real-life sex and as a result, weaker signals are sent to the genitals. This can mean erectile dysfunction for men and an inability to feel turned on for women.
What does this mean for my relationship? Sex with real people is great. Unlike virtual sex. With people you get an emotional connection and the pleasure of being touched and touching someone else. Sex with a partner is also great for your mental health. Unfortunately, people who frequently watch porn often find their sex lives becoming a little dull.
So people mix up the two…
Porn can be mutually beneficial and sometimes help service sex, making it a little easier to get things started, especially in today’s lifestyles. The brain is flexible and can be retrained away from excessive porn usage and you have the power to beat your obsession with porn and have great sex once more. Here are somethings that may help:
o Watch porn with your partner not alone, choose something you both like
o Don’t let it rule the event merely kick start it
o If you are on your own and the urge comes on, try exercise. This releases endorphins and other feel-good hormones.
o If you are alone try sex without porn. Use your imagination rather than porn, after all you only choose porn because it’s so freely available.
o Talk to your partner. If you feel your sex life is getting a bit boring, open up the conversation. Ask your partner what turns them on and perhaps try something new.
SexDrive takes a brief look at extensions of sexual activity such as BDSM. For many years people thought it was shameful and a bit sick and people who did it were weird. But research has indicated that BDSM people are in many ways normal and suffer no more mental health issues than straight sex people. There is always a caveat to this in that dominants tend to be very extravert and willing to try new things but submissives could be coerced into carrying out the act. The key and important point is average and extreme. With all sexual deviations if it’s gentle, nobody gets hurt and people are doing it freely then people can do as they wish. But extreme BDSM can get out of control physically and psychologically and that’s dangerous.
Group, dogging, exhibitionism, swinging are all practiced quite openly in the UK and many people enjoy these activities. Again, if people are doing these practices freely and nobody is hurt or injured and it’s not illegal then so be it. But research has indicated that a lot of people participating in these activities do have mental health issues and use the practice to overcome things like low self-esteem and insecurity. Exhibitionism Is classed as a mental health disorder. The interesting point here is it usually isn’t a dirty old man in a raincoat. The offenders are late teens to early thirties and are serial repeat offenders.
Whatever you’re into and whatever your gender enjoying a good sex life and relationship is not easy to do with the modern world we live in. You have to, and I know it goes against the grain to many, but you have to put effort into a relationship and a good sex life. It is basic instinct for most but to have a good sex life and relationship you need to make the effort.
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People tend to believe that each individual is different and unique in their own way. While that may be true to an extent, it’s not entirely accurate.
It’s certainly not helpful when firms are trying to recruit people ‘of a certain type’.
When it comes to personality types, there are tests that categorise people into one of a few groups that describe their characteristics.
The ‘Big Five’ personality traits characteristics are :
Easily remembered as OCEAN. You can find out what type of person you are by taking a free test here. It’s from Truity and doesn’t need an email or login.
• A third of Britons who go abroad return to the same resort every year
• The average UK holidaymaker has been to the same place four times
• More than one in ten return to the same holiday spot ten or more times – and many even try to book the same hotel room.
• More than a third, 34 per cent, go to the same restaurant they ate at on their last trip, and more than a quarter, 26 per cent, don’t even bother trying to find new drinking locations
• Some 59 per cent of us go on the same holiday in successive years
• McDonalds and KFC are worldwide brands and people in a foreign city can always head to a McDonalds and KFC because you only need to point at the picture and with 3 fingers held up means you want 3 – language barrier overcome. No slight embarrassment not knowing the menu or protocol.
• Many go back because it is the easy option.
Years ago we had seasonal fruit, but not now. Strawberries were April to August – now it’s January to November under poly-tunnel. How can a plant produce so much fruit??? Artificial feeding. How can they be so big? Artificial feeding. How can they look so pristine with not a mark on them? Artificial feeding and pesticides to keep the insects off. But because they are grown in artificial circumstances they can attract new types of diseases so chemicals are added to stop those diseases taking off. But, is there an alternative? Yes buy organic fruit and veg – at least there is an element of inspection and testing.
What is becoming scarier than processed food is fresh food. The farmers and scientists and government are now on a mission to feed the increasing population, HOW? Well, producing fresh food that we can grow quicker, faster, bigger, disease free and more aesthetically pleasing to the eye. But all these things come at a price.
The chemicals that farmers and growers put on the land to grow super-fast produce mean that the feed is so powerful it can double the growth and size in half the time. The pesticides they put on the plants kills everything and anything that lives on a plant, just so we don’t have a marked apple on the shelf. We do need chemicals to stop some diseases on fruit and veg but the chemicals on fruit and veg today go much further. This article in the Daily Mail on 1st November 2018 said;
On average, new research has found, a supermarket potato will have been doused with an astonishing 30 active ingredients (an active ingredient is the part of a substance or compound that produces its chemical or biological effect). Compare that to 40 years ago — when a potato would have been treated with just 5.3 active ingredients — and you start to see how mind-bogglingly dependent farming in Britain today is on chemicals.
Well years ago it was. When animals could go into the fields and eat grass and get normal supplements to keep them fit and healthy. But then big business wanted more and started to produce feeds like rocket fuel, the sort of food body builders eat to accelerate muscle and weight. Can you blame them? Not really. If someone says; “Hey, here’s a food that will treble the size of your animal in half the time, which means you get it to market faster and it’s cheaper to feed, so less cost and more profit.” Who wouldn’t?
But then you look at what they feed the animals and think it just doesn’t pass straight through the animal and out the other side – it is absorbed into the flesh. And then humans eat it. But, what’s the alternative? Locally produced, farm and grass reared, local butcher sold meats. Organic, just to add a bit of assurance nothing has been used on the land.
Ever wondered where the old out of date bread goes when it comes off the supermarket shelves? Well it goes to a special company and it is all ground together into a giant mincing machine and ground up into crumbs. This includes the coloured branded plastic bag it came in and the tag on the end. As bread is yeast based it requires further chemicals to stop another fermentation process taking place.
It is then sold to farmers for winter feed to cows who eat the crumbs and plastic bag and tag. We then milk the cow or eat the beef. Just to remind you cows stomachs may be big but they are not designed to eat colour printed plastic. Yet again another Food Standards Agency and Agricultural Agency getting together to provide winter feed at a cheap cost with no regard for the cow or the consumer. But what’s the alternative – organic milk. Aldi, Co-op and Sainsbury sell organic milk very competitively.
So what do we know, well firstly fish living together in huge pens in huge quantities attract disease. They also, in the case of salmon, lose their colour, so scientists created a food that has colour built in and contains chemicals that kill the fish lice and then we eat it. Take a look on YouTube at the investigations and make your own mind up.
The biggest fish farms in the world are now in the Baltic Sea. They farm pollock, haddock and cod and we also know the Baltic Sea is one of the most polluted seas on the globe. But, what is the alternative – fish caught in the open ocean.
Shellfish is a popular product in the UK but most prawns come from Thailand, Vietnam and South America. All are farmed. But, what’s the alternative – organic and ocean caught never farmed.
This recent documentary opens your eyes to fish farming and the issues they have – click here.
It’s not just eating the right food or drinking the right amount of water – it’s about when we do this. In the UK we eat as fuel and don’t eat for pleasure. We often push food down our throats as fast as we can – often late in the evening just before we go to bed!! There is an old saying breakfast like a king, lunch like a queen, dinner like a prince and supper like a pauper. Eating during the day gives our bodies the chance to work off the fuel we have put into our bodies. Many people have such busy days they don’t get time to eat during the day. If you’re that busy your body needs fuel so snack every hour or two if you cannot give up the time at lunch to eat. Little and often is recommended rather than a big meal at the end of the day.
We are creating a new type of member – the YouDriver.
YouDrivers will be able to build their own health dashboard – they will take health questionnaires to see how healthy they are, they will look at all aspects of their health and understand exactly what matters to them.
They will go on a journey to decide which health areas they want to work on, how they want to tackle these and then they will be able to build their own action plans.
We’re also inviting more people to get involved – whether by contributing their own views or by offering support to our site visitors.
We have built the YouDriver Dashboard, which will enable everyone to check their own health, decide which areas to tackle and build their own action plans.
We have also built a full contributions system, whereby people will be able to sign up to contribute posts, articles, links and downloads. At this stage, we’re checking who may be interested before any soft launch – let us know your thoughts.
