CoachDrive - Sometimes You Need Help And Support To Make Changes

With all our Drives it requires people to take personal responsibility but sometimes we don’t have the answer.  We can get into a bad circle of events that slowly get to us and bring our confidence down. If you look at some goal orientated activities these can provide valuable insight into how people deal with change:

  • Passing a driving test – the percentage of people passing a test is very high, this could be for two reasons: one, there is a driving school and teacher and two the rewards of passing your test and driving a car are immense.
  • University – even though students have to pay many do not make the final exams. Therefore the Universities have created mini exams and assignments along the journey to make it easier.
  • Losing weight- we start a diet then stop and yo-yo month to month. We lose 3 to 5 kilos and then put it back on. Joining a slimming club or teaming up with colleagues improves your chances of success.
  • Keeping Fit- something triggers the emotion and we join a gym or we buy a bike. Generally it is short-lived and we park the bike in the garage because we use the excuse we are too busy. Alone the failure rate is a lot higher. Joining a club, or colleagues or even a sponsored walk pushes a person to get fit and keep going.
  • Learning a new skill- musical instrument or language again it’s a small percentage of people who have the will power to do it alone and maintain it. Most people do it with a friend or join a club.
  • New Year resolution – don’t let your new change be like a New Year resolution and fizzle away within hours or days.

To change an old habit you have to create a new habit in your brain to run alongside the old one. This new habit will eventually take over the old habit. If you have a coach or are part of a group or team then it makes the change happen more easily and last longer.

Coaching Facts

The ICF Global Coaching Client Studies (commissioned in 2009, 2010 and 2012 and confirmed by PricewaterhouseCoopers), dealt with companies which introduced coaching for their employees.

This is relevant here because it shows the effect on the employees of this coaching.

1 %

of people showed improved self-confidence

1 %

of people reported improved relationships

1 %

of people demonstrated improved communications skills

1 %

of people said they had a better work / life balance

What is Coaching?

Coaching is one form of support, alongside joining a club or support organisation, looking on a relevant website, therapy or mentoring.

It applies to people who want to get better or make a significant change in their lives, and also to companies who want their staff to improve.

It takes elements of consulting and also elements of therapy.  It differs from therapy in that it looks forward rather than backwards.  It’s true that coaching shouldn’t be used to fix mental illness, but you can’t say that only people in therapy can have mental issues.

coaching consulting and therapy

This diagram is from the Harvard Business Review January 2009 issue

The CIPD is the professional body for HR and people development, and while they focus primarily on work and career, they provide useful tools for personal development and learning.

A Definition of Coaching

 Coaching aims to produce optimal performance and improvement. It focuses on specific skills and goals, although it may also have an impact on an individual’s personal attributes such as social interaction or confidence. The process typically lasts for a defined period of time or forms the basis of an on-going performance style.

What is mentoring?

Mentoring tends to describe a relationship in which a more experienced colleague shares their greater knowledge to support the development of someone less experienced.   Mentoring relationships tend to be longer term than coaching arrangements.

Different types of coaching

You can get support or coaching for individual goals, such as stopping smoking, losing weight or reducing your drinking.  Companies can also get coaching for their employees.  This can be in particular areas (e.g. sales, conflict).  There are also ‘Life Coaches’ where everything is addressed.

Why get support - do you need a coach?

We all learn and change in different ways. Knowing your own or preferred style is really important if you’re going to do something that lasts and is permanent. Some people like to study first and to understand all the options and facts. Some people get straight into it and start the change. Some people are influenced by external factors such as TV, radio, news articles, social media, work colleagues etc.

Whatever you prefer as a style of change the key question is can you maintain the change until a new habit is formed and maintained? All the Drives in YouDrive are about you, be it as part of financial, mental or physical health. Having support or a coach often helps. Coaching can require a significant cost outlay but if the outlay means you can turn around your physical or financial situation – e.g. give up smoking, then the benefit of the habit change pays for the extra support in coaching.

For those who cannot afford a personal coach then there are lots of support groups. Some charge a fee to join or attend such as weightwatchers but many of the government support lines for stress or advice on losing weight are free.

Whatever you prefer to do weigh up the costs verses your self will to do it by yourself. There is no point in starting something if you know deep down your will power isn’t strong enough to do it, so join a club, team, support group or get a coach.

Possible benefits

coaching action plan
Google CEO says that everyone needs a coach

Google CEO says 'Everyone needs a coach'

This video from Eric Schmidt, CEO of Google, expalins his views on coaching – not just in business, but generally. 

“All coaching is, is taking a player where he can’t take himself.”
Bill McCartney
Bill McCartney
American Football Player & Coach
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”
henry ford
Henry Ford
Ford Motors
“I can help, but in the end it is up to you”
david kirby
David Kirby
Success Coach, Author
“Be the author, not the reader, of your own life.”
paul gibbons
Paul Gibbons
Author - Reboot Your Life
“If you think someone or something other than yourself is responsible for your happiness or success, I'd guess you're not that happy or successful.”
rob liano
Rob Liano
Coach, Author

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More information

BT offer a range of courses free

Reed also offer a range of courses, some of which are free

The Coaching Academy offer a range of courses

Become a health and life coach in 6 months with Health Coach Institute

Notion Business Consulting have a handout on changing habits which you can download here

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